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Friday, September 26, 2025

San Diego Day 1

    For Patrick's 50th Birthday, we decided to travel down to San Diego and celebrate with his longtime friends, Ruth and Josh (and their families, as they were also turning 50 this year). He would show me all the sights and try to convince me to move back down there with him. (Spoiler, no thank you. It's beautiful, but I think the heat would kill me!)

    We decided to buy a package through Costco Travel that included the flight, 3 nights in Kona Kai resort, and a rental car (small upcharge for the premium model). However, I don't think I would do a rental car through a typical company anymore. The website for Budget said "Toyota Crown or similar", which is the exact car I wanted, as it's on my spite list for not being able to get it from Turo in Texas, but they don't guarantee the model (the guy that showed us to the car said that they "hardly have any of those", which makes me think that their website is very misleading and I am upset about it.) I mean, the other issue was the cars that were offered, which were a Toyota 4-Runner or a Hyundai Tucson, weren't even hybrids, so no, it's not a "Toyota Crown or similar"! Similar would be a hybrid at the very least! We decided on the Tucson, as much as I dislike Hyundai for several reasons that I won't get into here, because it had better gas milage. When I think of premium, I think of a class of car, not a size. The Tucson is very much an SUV, which we didn't really need, but I digress. 

    Since we were too early to check into our hotel, we did a little exploring. We had to stop by a grocery store first to pick up some things we couldn't take on our carry-on, and grabbed some coffee as well as we had had an early flight. After that, we grabbed lunch as Shawarma Guys. This was our first time eating Shawarma and this was voted one of the best places so we checked it out - but it was a food truck so we didn't eat there. We drove to Cabrillo National Monument in order to get some stellar views and eat up there at the same time. You could see Mexico from our viewpoint. The food was also very good, but I don't think I'll ever seek out Shawarma again.


    It was time to check into our hotel and although the grounds were impressive, the hotel itself left a bit to be desired. The bed was certainly comfortable, and the room was clean, but the "Bay View" was more parking lot than bay, which was very disappointing. The shower was also gross and was completely busted. I mean, it worked, but leaks were spraying water everywhere. We were tuckered out so we took a short nap before we headed to the one place we booked tickets for: The San Diego Sunset Cruise. 

    The cruise itself was nice, but they only circled Mission Bay. I was hoping they would kind of cruise along the cliffs but I realized later that probably wouldn't have been possible and I was expecting too much. And unfortunately, the sunset was pretty much nil. It was the same for the whole trip actually, which was super lame. I was glad of the clouds though, as when the sun is beating down on your as far south as San Diego it's pretty intense, and any temp the gauge says, add 10 degrees when it hits your skin. 

    We figured we could squeeze in one more thing before heading back to the hotel for the night, and that was to check out the free Mission Bay Park where they have fair stuff and a path along the beach. I liked that we went after sunset as the fair lights were nice, and of course the temperature was perfect. The fair part was pretty small but hey, it was free so I can't complain. We walked along the beachwalk for a while and checked out the houses on the shore. One of them had a QR code to book a stay (they were probably all Air B&Bs) and it was I believe, $2700 a night - in October. Yup, that's San Diego for you!

    After that we called it a night. We had some great plans for the next day!

    


Wednesday, September 10, 2025

Virtuosity

It's Review Wednesday again! We're in for a treat, this time. Patrick and I have been doing a lot of "what movie is this?" Youtube quizzes, and we discovered an interesting movie to watch. It's from 1995, and stars a quite young Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe. I've loved a bunch of movies they've been in so I wanted to check this one out, called 'Virtuosity'. 

Here is the synopsis from Rotten Tomatoes:


"A former cop who has been imprisoned for murdering the psychopath who killed his family, Parker Barnes (Denzel Washington) is recruited to test out a new virtual-reality program where the goal is to apprehend a computer-generated being called SID 6.7 (Russell Crowe), who has been modeled on hundreds of deranged criminals. When SID manages to escape into the real world, Barnes must capture or destroy him before the soulless entity can go on a killing spree"

The premise seems simple enough, and this movie was WAY ahead of its time. I mean, it kind of bombed on Rotten Tomatoes, and probably because in 1995 none of this stuff existed yet so it was hard to write about and make it seem legit. I mean, this movie was released the same year as the Virtual Boy for goodness sakes. VR was not a thing yet. So obviously, real AI was also still 20 years away. The CGI visuals... left a lot to be desired. It's hard to say if the budget was enough or if it was just that bad in 1995, but I have to remember that Jurassic Park came out in 1993, and Terminator 2 came out in 1991, so like, it seems like it could have been better.

The plot was kind of awful lol The guy that invented SID decides to release him into the wild to see how he does because he's batshit crazy, obviously, and it feels so Terminator 2 that SID is basically unstoppable with his silicon body that can regenerate if it "soaks up" glass shards. It also seems to pull a lot of ideas from Demolition Man as well, and apparently was the inspiration for The Matrix (??).

I feel like they directly ripped the idea of SID from the Star Trek: TNG episode called "Ship in a Bottle" (released in 1993), where Sherlock Holmes nemesis, Professor Moriarty, becomes sentient and takes over the Enterprise to force them to figure out how to release him from the holodeck so he can go live his life. I won't spoil the ending to Virtuosity if you wish to watch it, but suffice it to say the endings were not that different. 

I just feel as if this movie could have been SO much better. The plot felt disjointed as if it were missing pieces or we had to assume a bunch of information, and important parts that could have been fleshed out were skipped. Making Parker the "only" person who "understood" SID because he hunted him once in VR is silly. Even if the creator of SID wasn't available to ask (which he wasn't when he disappeared after letting SID out) there are Behavior Analysis specialists in the real world who would do a better job than Parker, in theory. The things Parker assumed about SID and his motives/location I believe anybody could have gotten.

It's so unfortunate, and I believe strongly that this movie would do amazingly well if rebooted for today. With VR being much more realistic and AI beginning to scare people with its abilities, now would be the perfect time to rewrite this crazy plot and make it something worth seeing. I even think that the writers kind of knew what they were doing when they wrote SID 6.7 in the beginning. AI needs data to work off of, and in the end, it's still only programming, no matter how "real" it seems. The AI of today just pulls its info from the internet or data dumps and adds code for "fluff language" so that it answers you like a real person instead of like a machine. It is not sentient, it can just act like it is. 

It makes me wish Tony Scott the director was still alive today. Unstoppable is one of my favorite movies of his, starring Denzel, and his movies just have a way about them that make the action gripping. He directed the Taking of Pelham 123 (also starring Denzel) and you could tell it was the same guy. He also directed Top Gun, Enemy of the State, Deja Vu and Man of Fire. He would have fit in perfectly directing this as a reboot. 

Let's do it, bring it on! And I will be in line to see it.

Wednesday, July 23, 2025

Texas Trip Day 1

4/4/24    

    Strap in folks... this is going to be a long one. This is the longest vacation I've ever had, and it's not often I leave the state at all. The whole reason for this vacation (which was being planned if not physically, but mentally since the day after the Aug 2017 total eclipse) was the total eclipse that was going to hit the central/eastern coast of the US on 4/8/24. But the reason I chose Texas as my destination over anywhere else was because of my friend, Matty. This was someone who I had met over Twitter while bonding over our mutual obsession with Alton Brown nearly 12 years ago. We had never met in person, and he lived near Houston, Texas. I figured Texas was going to have the best weather in April anyway.

    As I began to plan this out, I knew it was going to be close to my 40th birthday so I figured I had time to save up a bunch of money and make this trip into a celebration for myself as well. I wanted a vacation where I wouldn't have to worry about how much money was being spent, and I could do basically whatever I wanted and not have to be concerned about finances. In the meantime, I met my partner, Patrick, and got married, so he became a part of the plan as well. Which I'm super glad for because while I was willing to do this trip on my own, I was extremely trepidatious about it.

    As I began to plan it physically, I secured my hotel for San Antonio because Fredericksburg (the town) was freaking out. When we called them to inquire about getting a hotel for the eclipse, they said that the town was planning on imposing a 4-night minimum stay at about $500 a night. I do hope they lost out on a ton of business. While the hotel I chose was still in the path of totality (it was a basic Days Inn with a 2 night stay of a whopping $180 since I got it well in advance), it wasn't near the center line so I could still get closer. The only difference would be the length of totality. While (west) San Antonio was roughly 2 minutes long, the center line would last over 4 minutes. For picture-taking, that's pretty significant. 

    After making my reservations for San Antonio, I would now be able to plan everything else around it. I ended up tacking on 2 days in Houston prior and flying there instead of SA because the airline tickets were getting a bit crazy flying to anywhere near the path of totality. Spend two days in SA, two days in Corpus Christi, and two days in Galveston before flying out of Houston on 4/12. I made plans to do a lot of cool stuff so if for some reason we couldn't see the eclipse, at least we would have a bunch of other things planned that were exciting.


[I'm going to go ahead and tell you now so you're not in suspense. No, we didn't get to see the eclipse. We had considered going to Uvalde, right on the center line, but the Texas weather was changing (I swear) every 20 minutes. I didn't actually decide not to drive down there until the night before. It was going to be completely cloudy both in SA and Uvalde, but SA had a slightly better chance of clearing, plus we would save $50 for a parking spot, and an extra hour of driving to Corpus Christi after the event. Not to mention the potential for heavy traffic. Only places further north saw clearer skies, including my co-worker Dora who was currently in Dallas. We were just unlucky.]

    So anyway, 4/4 was basically a travel day. We used the Premier Van Shuttle service, which turned out to be pretty cool. They pick you up right at your residence and drop you off at your gate and visa versa on the way back. The flight out was a 2pm. The only downsides to the flight was my window being mostly over the wing, and a crying baby directly behind me for probably 50% of it. The noise-cancelling earbuds helped with that somewhat. 

    We arrived after dark thanks to the 2 hour time change, and this was our first experience using the Turo rental car app service. Because we were going to be road-tripping, I wanted to be able to, you know, choose what vehicle I wanted to drive, which is hard to do with a typical rental car agency. Plus, who wants to wait in a long line at the airport just to be hounded by reps trying to scare you into buying all that extra insurance, and tacking on fees? (FYI, State Farm offers UNOC coverage - and no I don't know what that stands for - but basically it's an add-on to your own car insurance. As long as you have full coverage, your rental will be covered in an accident, however it doesn't cover any profit loss from damage to a vehicle taken out of service to be fixed and stuff like that. Plus I had charged it to my Costco card, which can cover as a secondary to the State Farm if the car got damaged in some way.) 

    Anyway, I digress. It was an interesting process getting the vehicle. We took a shuttle to the ecopark and found it in the parking spot provided by the owner. It was a 2024 Buick Envista Avenir, which I chose (after the vehicle I had initially wanted, a 2023 Toyota Crown, was damaged and unavailable for the trip) due to its comfortable ride and advanced safety features like adaptive cruise control. We had to take several interior and exterior shots of the vehicle, including any prior damage we found so the owner couldn't pin it on us if it came back that way. (Another FYI - this is a good practice to have with rental car agencies as well, as they're even more likely to pin you with damage you didn't actually cause). Setup with google maps was a breeze and we were quickly on our way to the hotel after that - to get some sleep because it was past 9:30pm local time by that point.

Day 2

    

Friday, April 4, 2025

How to Train your Drag- I mean Cat

    There are a number of people that think that cats can't be trained, and besides the fact that I had taught Angel how to twirl and bat my hand for her treat, training isn't just about teaching them tricks. Training is about showing a cat what is safe.

    Pixel is a very scared boy. He's a bit more timid than Angel was when we first got her. He hasn't had much of a life so far being only 2 (while we got Angel when she was 10. She had, I believe, one owner who had died), but it's been pretty eventful. From what the shelter told us, he was born in a barn as a semi-feral kitten and brought to the shelter. He was adopted by a family who wanted to socialize a scared kitten, and apparently this was where he was until he was almost 2. Then he escaped, and the family apparently didn't bother to look for him and when he was brought to the shelter they stated they had moved to a place that didn't accept cats. So for 3 weeks he was back at the shelter, and plastered into a corner. It sounds to me as if his previous owners treated him like an accessory as opposed to a family member, and I'm going to guess that he might not have felt safe or secure in his previous territory. It's taking him a while to open up with us. 

    But I am writing this for a reason - I would like to put some information out there to help potential adopters in situations like these. First of all, I would like to scream from the rooftops:

DON'T PASS UP THE SHY ONES

    Like I mentioned in my previous post, Angel never came out of her cubby when we did our meet and greet. All the information we got for her was from her foster mom and the shelter. And she was the sweetest, most chill and amazing cat in the world. I know it can be hard when the animals you're looking at in the cages don't literally jump out at you, become chatty and rub up against you and want to play. But I find shy cats to be the best cuddlers, if that's what you're looking for. It can just take them a little time to get used to their surroundings, and I have tips (learned from experience and from Jackson Galaxy) to get them to open up to you.

    1. Find a space that is quiet and dark, away from the hustle and bustle of life, and set up a "base camp". In our case, it was our office. We had a cat pod in our closet for him to hide in and feel safe. We put his food, water, and litterbox in there and left him alone for a while. I came to visit every couple of hours or so to make sure he knew he wasn't abandoned, and I only did things that wouldn't make him nervous (kept my distance, didn't attempt to pet him or anything. Just spoke softly to him).

    2. Being able to read body language is key, here. Do not do anything that makes your cat uncomfortable or nervous. Remember, they don't know you, they don't trust you, and you don't want to start off on the wrong foot. They are in a territory they haven't marked as their own, so it's unfamiliar, and to them - unsafe. Remember that cats are both predator and prey. It's important to understand that, unlike dogs, they can feel threatened by unknowns because they are prey animals. 

    3. Let them sniff you. You can use something with your scent on it if they back away from your hand (always present knuckles first, not with fingers). Glasses are a good one. Do not "lord" over them, in other words, get down to their level so you don't appear threatening. Try the slow blink. It's called the "cat I love you", because if they blink at you, it means they trust you enough to close their eyes with you around. This is an important step. You're letting them know that you trust them by closing your eyes to them, and if they do the same, then that's a great start. 

    4. Once they start feeling as if the place might be safe, they will do a little exploration, probably while you're not around. Every time I came in to visit Pixel, he was in a different hiding spot, and as I discovered these, I masked them off so that he couldn't go back to them. He had a safe space in the cat pod, and we wanted him to use that if he got scared. They probably won't feel safe enough to eat or drink for a while, but their instincts will get the best of them eventually and they'll have some food once they feel safe enough. (If cats don't eat any food in a 24 hour period, it can be dangerous to their liver, so make sure you monitor this).

    5. If you decide to go in for pets, make sure you calm them first by speaking softly, doing a few slow blinks, and reaching out slowly - knuckles first. Do not try to do an open hand above their head. Most cats don't like this if they don't trust you. Keep your pets soft and around the face. Stroke the cheeks, or try for chin scratches. Don't venture beyond this area at first unless you believe they seem comfortable. You can try it, and if they try to back away, swish their tail around quickly, put their ears back, growl or hiss, you'll know they're not ready and don't try this again for a while. Respect their space; this will allow them to trust you more if you don't force any interaction. Give them the capacity to choose - this is very important. Note: If they rub their cheek against your hand, you've won a gold star. This is what I call the cat handshake (this might be Jackson's words I don't remember), they are putting their scent on you, marking you as safe, and letting you know they're accepting your pets.

    5. Eventually, they'll be curious as to what lies beyond the closed door once they feel comfortable in their current digs. This is where you introduce the challenge line. Some cats will explore if you leave the door open for them, but some decide that their space is safe and it's all they need. At this point, there's a few things you can do.

    #1 Try feeding them either at the open door, or just the other side of it, and see if they're willing to go that far for their food. If this works, keep moving the food dish further out each time you feed them.

    #2 Try treats! Jackson calls it the "jackpot treat", it's the treat you only give them when you are training them, and something they can not get enough of, if you happen to know what that is.

    #3 Take something that they've soaked their scent into while in their base camp; a cat tree or a cat bed for example, and move it out into the next room. This gives them a sense of security because they will smell their scent in the next room and believe it safe. In our case, since the cat pod has his scent all over it and he feels safe in there, we moved it to the living room. If he gets spooked (and they will - at first, every little noise will scare them) he can run to his pod instead of running back into the office.

    #4 Try playing with them. Once they are focused on a toy, begin to move them to and beyond their challenge line. They will be too distracted to notice. Once they notice, they might run back, but that's okay, it may take a few tries.

    6. This is where you might have to employ some tough love. Some cats will keep finding safety in their old base camp, trying to hide in the closet, or just planting themselves at a place in their base camp even though they've come out into the other rooms. You can't encourage this behavior by letting them stay there forever. It doesn't do them any favors to claim only a corner of such a large territory. They need to explore and claim all of it for them to be completely comfortable and not potentially exhibit undesirable territorial behaviors such as marking (with pee, in case you didn't know!). 

    7. You'll want to block off their old areas of safety. Don't be mean, here. You still want to give them a safe space, like a cat pod, while taking away other places. This is where Catification of your home comes into play. You want them to become comfortable in the new area, so give them places to hang out in safely, like shelves high up on the walls, or a tall cat tree and the like so they can view their territory from high up without feeling threatened. Try playing with them and get them into the center of the room. This is key because prey animals feel more comfortable in closed in spaces, so getting your cat out into the open this way is a great training tool. 

    8. You always want to employ positive reinforcement. This probably should have been higher up on my list lol. But negative reinforcement never works on a cat. It will damage or even break the bond you've built, and they won't understand why you're yelling at them. As Jackson has always said, for every 'no', present a 'yes'. Believe it or not, cats don't hold grudges. They're not that complex. If they do something you think is wrong, they have no idea; they're just doing what their instinct tells them to do. So, present an alterative to the behavior you don't like. Examples include:

    Scratching the furniture. You can buy double-sided sticky tape for the area, or a plastic cover which will dissuade them. You can buy a scratching post for right next to it, or even spray the area with a smell most cats don't like, like citrus. There are a lot of options. When they use the scratching post instead of your couch, make sure to shower them with praise and give them a treat. The positive association will help them learn.

    Peeing or pooping outside the litterbox. A lot of people think that cats do this on purpose, like because they're angry with you or something. No. Again, they are not that complex. It's usually one of two things: either a medical issue, or an insecurity issue. If they've been going in the litterbox just fine and then suddenly they aren't, and you haven't changed to a different litter and have kept it clean, it might be a medical issue. Maybe it hurts to go to the bathroom and they associate that hurt with the litterbox. Taking them to the vet would be a good idea in this case, especially if you notice other issues like mowing at the box, or straining, or blood. The other situation would be some kind of insecurity, either inside or outside the home. For example, marking and peeing are ways for a cat to tell other cats that this place is there's. If they see other cats outside through the window, they might become insecure and go to the bathroom outside of the box. There are numerous issues that might cause this insecurity, but the point is not to jump to conclusions and think that the cat is just "getting back at you for something you did" or other such nonsense. That's just not how it works.

    Hopefully all of this helps you and makes you more confident in getting a cat that might not look the most sociable on the outside. They want loves, just like any other cat! They just make take a bit longer to come out of their shell.



Wednesday, January 8, 2025

Angel in Heaven

    Only a few months after Daisy's passing, I felt compelled to start looking for another feline companion. When I saw (then named) Angie's profile picture I immediately fell in love. They described her as a loving, affectionate and calm 10 year old kitty who preferred quiet places and slow paces. She was perfect. When we went to see her in person, she was in a hidey-hole and obviously didn't trust us. She had recently lost her human companion and none of the family could keep her, so she was brought to the shelter to find a new home. As soon as we were given a churu to have her try, she ate it so eagerly we were afraid that she would swallow the packaging with the food. I told Patrick this after I left the room "my heart grew 3 sizes that day" (Grinch reference). We signed the papers right then and brought her home shortly after.

That was June of 2022. The last 2.5 years were filled with so much love that I
could barely contain it. Angel was incredibly smart, having learned a neat trick to get her treats, and could easily get through a puzzle feeder. If she was on my lap late at night and I shut off the TV (my indication that it was time for bed) she would immediately meow-complain and jump off my lap without prompting. She was so softies, her eyes were the most gorgeous blue you would ever see. We bonded so quickly I didn't even realize it. She trusted me 100%, and she was so chill that I could basically do anything to her and she would tolerate it. Brushing teeth, clipping nails, shaving her butt to help with poops. We even had to wash her in the tub a couple of times and although she disliked it immensely, she would let us do it.

She loved to hang out under the bed covers with us. She would often put her paw over your arm and pull it closer to her. She loved her lap time, and loved my lap the most. When I got home from work I would often see her laying in my spot on the couch waiting for me. I would always say "I see a pretty girl." and I would pick her up and giver her hugs.

The vet found a small nodule on an u/s in mid-November, and the biopsy came back as simply "necrotic tissue", which in and of itself is certainly not great, but it also wasn't deemed cancer, so we went for conservative management with steroids and special foods to reduce the inflammation in her pancreas and large intestine. It was supposed to last for 3 months, but she started to deteriorate after only 1. She began to reject eating almost anything we were giving her, including the special hydrolyzed protein diet. They did another u/s... the mass had grown. And now she had a nodule on her side that we could feel as well.

At that point I knew... biopsy or not... she had pancreatic cancer. We were still hopeful that it might be localized, however, and maybe it could be removed. But we kept getting blow after blow. The nodule on her side came back with "necrotic tissue" so again, no definitive answer there. And the mass... it was butting up against her biliary duct. It wouldn't be able to be 100% removed with clear margins no matter what, but we wanted to try and see how much time we could give our sweet Angel so we scheduled her for surgery.

The news from the surgeon was the most devastating. There were masses all over her pancreas and abdominal cavity. There was nothing he could do. But she was waking up from the anesthesia and we could go see her. We had to have an extremely hard discussion. Angel had maybe weeks left. And she also had weeks of recovery from surgery ahead of her. We had to decide if it was even worth taking her home. Believe me, I wanted to. I wanted to so badly it hurt. But the last few days prior to her surgery were fraught with pain and issues and was not a good time for her. I had to take her to the closest animal ER on Friday night because she had been vomiting, having diarrhea, lethargy and was in obvious pain; surgery wasn't scheduled until Tuesday and I wasn't even sure she would make it that long. She would only eat about 5oz of wet food a day, which is about 5oz less than what she should be eating. We had to try to feed her every couple of hours this Nulo Silky Mousse that came in a pouch, and she would only eat it straight from the pouch like a churu treat, but not very much at a time. We were force feeding her liquid nutrients and cerenia (anti-nausea) medication. After she got the pain medication from the ER she began to do better, and we only had one scare on Sunday morning where we thought she was actively dying. We made an appointment for home euthanasia on Monday, but then out of some miracle she got up and began drinking water. The pain medication had finally caught up to her pain and we could keep it at bay. She was 95% our Angel again. She would do lap time, a little play time, and cuddle sessions. But her eating had not gotten better, and we were losing trust every time we had to gang up on her and give her medication.

The pain medication gave us something special - an almost 2 full days of our beloved kitty, and some of the best memories I could ever hope for. But we knew that if we brought her home, this blessing would be short lived. It would only mask her problems, and she would continue to rapidly deteriorate, and we would have to go through this all over again. I wanted to keep those happy memories; I didn't want them to be replaced with her suffering. I hated that decision. And I still feel incredibly guilty for making it. I wanted to bring her home and force more good memories, but that decision was selfish. Prolonging her life and her suffering was selfish. We decided that it was best that before she was fully awake from anesthesia that we would put her down. I hate it. I hate it so much!!! She didn't know what was happening, she was so confused after waking up from surgery. But she sniffed us, and recognized our voices. And we spent a good hour with her just soothing her with our pets and voices before we made the call.

Coming home to an empty house every day makes my heart break. Not seeing her on my cushion kills me. Not having her sitting in front of me while soaking up the heater at my feet is destroying me. The look of love and trust in her eyes as she gazed up at me is burned into my brain forever.

Angel was the sweetest girl you could ever hope to meet. She was the most amazing animal and I don't regret bringing her into our lives. She was cared for an loved unconditionally, and she returned that love with vigor. She didn't deserve this.

This was the second time we've lost an animal to cancer. I just don't know if I could ever do it again. The pain is insurmountable. Angel was my sweet baby girl. I love you sweetheart, and I miss you with every fiber of my being. Maybe I'll see you again some day... across the rainbow bridge.